About 8 years ago, I lost a friend. Nobody died. We broke up. I was so hurt and upset, I wasn't sure I would survive. I expected her to call and apologize. Eight years later, she hasn't.
It continues to haunt me for a few reasons:
- Didn't she care about me?
- If she did, why did she do that?
- If she didn't care about me, why couldn't I see that?
- Why doesn't she just say she's sorry?
- Is she sorry?
- Why do I waste my time worrying about it when it is painfully obvious that she doesn't?
This past weekend, I saw her for the first time since our friendship ended. There was no tearful, come to Jesus moment. We were among mutual friends who seem to have sided with her - they have continued to be friends with her, and I'm the one who got left out. Which leads to more questions about our mutual friends (see six above).
I tried to be a good person - I hugged her when she got there. Then we tried to avoid each other the rest of the night. It was incredibly uncomfortable.
And here I sit, still baffled by the whole thing. No apology. No friend.